Mamma mia!
Now I'm 21 years old. But since early age I watched my mom how she was ruining herself at work. She used to bring her tears and humiliation from work into the family, she also raised her voice to the relatives, and at the same time she was becoming unhappier with each passing day. Then I realized that I did not want such thing to happen to me. I want to contribute for the common good.I meet some works that are similar to yours, and I am interested in several things, but I need your opinion about them:
My mother thinks that because of all the forces and “juices” that she, for the sake of me, has been pressing out of herself all these years, I am obliged to give her back my money and “juices” immediately after graduation. Am I obliged to her from the perspective of the space? How the financial relations between the child and the parent are built up? I want to help her when she is old, but I need for this purpose to acquire a foundation...
Any action of the parent towards the child - that is the parent's personal responsibility, not the child's at all. After all, it is very strange to determine the parent's actions before the forming of the child, which finishes no earlier than 20-25 years of age, according to the child's characteristics and qualities. The real responsibility of Man physiologically occurs when he has finally formed his brain: for the girls is 20-25 years of age and 25-30 years for the boys. How is it possible to require anything from a person, when he is not even in a position to compare, correlate and analyze? After that comes the experience, which every person gains according to his own actions.
Of course, here we cannot exclude the factor of service and love, but it is not a necessary characteristic. In your case, however, we can see the dissatisfaction from life and the reason for it transfers to the result, which in reality is the child.
However, if some parents consider the child as a consequence, not a cause, sooner or later a conflict will arise in them. Actually, the habit to live by the principle that someone owes you something generally deprives Man of his personality.
Of course, I find it difficult to analyze your situation in this particular case, since there are not enough facts, however, the destiny of a person is composed of various parameters, and you should always be careful, when you give a certain evaluation.
Money has always been an element of sacrifice in Man's life, and it is important not to become a victim of money. Of course, it is difficult when the parents throw their own shortcomings, deficiencies and non-realization on their children, requiring from them self-sacrifice.
However, if you really ask such a question, then you need to learn how to find the answer by yourself. And from the perspective of the space, the higher quality of your life and thinking, the more fulfilled and satisfied you will be, and the more complete will be the life of your beloved ones. So, your inner state should be primary in regard of this particular question.
13 november 2012
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